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christian counseling today

VOL. 22 NO. 1

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DIANE LANGBERG , PH.D.

looking inward

W

e all carry a great

capacity for deception.

The Scriptures say it

is the most prevalent

and profound characteristic of the

human heart and telling us our hearts

are unknowable. We are all human; so

counselors are human hearts, working

alongside other human hearts.

All

such

hearts are exceedingly complex and

fragile. They are knowable in limited

ways and easily damaged.

Deception essentially functions

as a narcotic, for it protects us from

seeing clearly or feeling that which

is painful. A person who is skilled in

deception is one who is effectively

addicted to deceit. Deception deeply

habituates the soul to look at things

diametrically opposed to the way

God sees, for He is a God of truth.

Deception is about hiding, pretending,

ignoring, and camouflaging. We use

all manner of self-deceptions to protect

us from information that would cause

us to view ourselves in ways that we do

not like. This mechanism enables us

to turn a blind eye, commit wrongs,

and feel justified when we ought to be

facing our failures, abuses, and sins.

The maintenance of any destructive

pattern in a human life—such as a

sex addiction—requires a foundation,

an infrastructure. Its cornerstone is

deception.

There is a second phenomenon

to consider that is also relevant to a

discussion of sexual addictions. It is

self-injury. Sometimes when people

are distraught, full of self-hatred, and

confused, they take it out on their own

bodies. When someone does harm to

him/herself, we say it is self-destructive;

we know it is not healthy. It is

pathological to injure the body in which

you live… to harm the self

and

believe

it is good. That is the essence of any

addiction. We know from research that

ongoing use of pornography shapes the

brain. We know it cripples relationships.

We also know that chronic use of

pornography lowers inhibitions in a

similar fashion to alcohol. It numbs the

self to things that our God hates.

Let’s consider the biography of

deception in a life. We have said that

deception’s origin is in the human heart

and that none of us are exempt. It is

there—you and I know its presence

in our own hearts and have heard its

whisper. All of us have yielded to it.

All of us know the heart experience

of temptation and the response of

self-deception, seemingly working in

concert to convince us of its rightness

or harmlessness. When we also have a

fear of God in our hearts, then another

powerful factor is introduced into this

battle in the soul. If there is no fear of

God or

we silence that fear

, then we can

easily begin thinking what the enemy

told Eve—you will not die… it will not

hurt you. We convince ourselves we

can stop at any time… one more time

will not hurt… just one more look. If

we engage in such self-delusion long

enough, we will, over time, lose our

Addiction and the Deceived Heart